lacking in refinement
Not everyone thinks the same. Not everyone has the same 'morals'
mor·al (môrl, mr-)adj. The judgement of goodness.
and where I see people getting into trouble is when they think their morals are the ones every person should go by. Example: Seeing adults nude is a bad bad thing. That is one moral way of thinking. Now consider for a minute, a european family who summers at a nude beach. If you've ever been to a nude beach you know that it is not a dark, sexual place but a normal place with normal people who do not view a naked body as only sexual. It is a place of families, usually hippy families, playing in the ocean and listening to music like families everywhere else. Children see each other and even adults naked and because it is common, it is not the littlest bit weird, perverse, or a cause for concern. Now, anything sexual or inappropriate touching is as taboo in other countries as it is here, but nakedness alone is not. So, studies indicate that growing up believing a naked body, any naked body, is beautiful and normal and not always sexual, constitutes an above average self esteem - unlike a society in which nakedness is shunned and taught as shamefull. so now, which person is the more 'moral'?
you cant debate it because morality is individual. There is not one set of rules. There isnt. Try as you might feel as holy as you will, there is not a set of paper with exact ways to live.
Onward to my point.
VULGARITY. i love that word. I love debauchery too. its sexy huh? to cause such a ruckus that all pre-conceived rules go out the window. You are FREE. of course now, the road of excess does not always lead to the palace of wisdom because many rockstars died in bathtubs in praise of debauchery and nothing else. Being on the edge all of the time may not be good for the health.
When someone tells me I lack refinement I'm sure they are presuming I will feel bad about their comment. I know too that they are living in strict accordance of rules, probably placed upon them by an overbearing mother or unemotional father, and only feel sure of themselves when the rest of the world follows along with these rules. Then they are safe. The world is predictable. controllable.
Women need to major in vulgarity, Im convinced. They need to hear the sound of their own voices for the very first time. Like in the movie "Boys on the Side" where Whoopie Goldberg is trying to get her friend to say the word cunt. A mousy little girl in a tattered wool sweater, afraid of everything. she cant say it. then she says it softly. embarrassed. society tells us genital words are dirty, bad, vulgar (meaning out genitals are dirty, bad, vulgar), especially womans genitalia. soon though, the woman is screaming it, singing it out. She is empowered. Much like how the N word has less of a sting when spoken by a person of color. the C word is not a slang when a woman takes it as her own.
My art is childlike and attractive to children so therefore I should have a responsiblity for behaving in a way that is most beneficial to children. Like not cursing in my videos. so Ive been told (reprimanded) again by an anonymous angry poster.
If I had a kid Id teach her all the curse words. nothing is funnier than having a child curse. I would then hand her a movie camera and tell her to film a horror movie in the kitchen. She would know everything and not be afraid of anything and she'd be free to make the most of everything available to her.
In my morality bad words are not bad - they are descriptive. And as a lover of descriptive adjectives I choose them often.
And I'll say this one more time just so it's in print and from henceforth when itchy women decide that since the world revolves around their beliefs I better stand in line and behave in ways that make THEM happy, I can point them to this post.
If you have kids and dont want them to hear what I have to say - be a parent and dont let them watch my show. My show is not designed for the typical young child. A young child would not understand half of what I talk about anyhoo. And as far as tainting the minds of young adolescent girls and influencing them to be less refined and explicit in exactly how they feel both in body and in speech I say FUCK YEAH! Here is to a new generation of artist girls not afraid of who they are or of their anger or passion and never, not for one instant, second think whether they should be truthful or not because it might LACK REFINEMENT.
|Noun||1.||refinement - a highly developed state of perfection; having a flawless or impeccable quality; "|
Perhaps yOu want to be stiff and flawless but I want to be real. I want to feel a real life with all of its bumps and bruises and I know, I know, I know deep in my soul, that lady, I'm already perfect.